Strong & Awake

Season 3, Episode 7 | "Is peace available in the midst of your chaos?" In this episode of Strong & Awake, Dane and Mitch challenge the notion that balance and comfort are the ultimate goals in life. They argue that living in perpetual comfort leaves us weak and asleep, and that true fulfillment comes from embracing voluntary discomfort. Through candid discussions, they explore how the pursuit of balance often masks a deeper desire for relief from stress, and how this pursuit can lead to a life of settling for less. They encourage listeners to confront the reality of life's challenges and to choose discomfort as a path to growth and resilience. By adopting practices that build resilience, individuals can transform their relationship with stress and unlock a life of greater agency and fulfillment. This episode is a call to action to redefine what it means to live a strong and awake life, and to find peace not in the absence of chaos, but through it.Chapters:00:00 Introduction01:16 The Illusion of Balance05:30 Comfort is an Idol10:23 Embracing Life's Hardships16:00 Voluntary Discomfort as Growth and Peace22:48 Machine or Garden30:26 Building Resilience Through HabitsMentions:Brene Brown - Mentioned in the context of people wearing stress and busyness as a badge of honor.David Allen's GTD (Getting Things Done) - Referenced as a productivity system that some people use to manage their time and tasks.Kierkegaard - Quoted for his comment about man finding the level of despair he can tolerate and calling it happiness.James Clear's "Atomic Habits" - Mentioned as a resourceful guide for building good habits and breaking bad ones.Anchor Actions:1. Embrace Voluntary Discomfort: Start incorporating small, manageable discomforts into your daily routine. This could be as simple as taking a cold shower, fasting until noon, or doing a daily workout. The goal is to build resilience and strength by choosing challenges that push you out of your comfort zone. These small acts can lead to significant personal growth and prepare you for larger challenges.2. Reevaluate Your Relationship with Stress: Instead of seeking constant relief or balance, begin to see stress as a natural part of life that can be navigated and even embraced. When stress arises, take a moment to assess how you're interpreting it. Are you viewing it as a burden or as an opportunity for growth? Shifting your mindset from avoidance to acceptance can transform how you handle life's challenges.3. Simplify and Focus: Take immediate action by decluttering your environment of things that don't serve your goals. For instance, clear out unhealthy foods from your pantry or eliminate distractions from your workspace. By reducing unnecessary clutter, you create space for more intentional living, making it easier to focus on what truly matters and aligns with your values.Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io 🦬Connect With Us:Facebook | Instagram | YouTube |

Season 3, Episode 6 | "Don't let cultural norms rob you or trap you into a false sense of what is possible and isn't possible." In this episode of Strong & Awake, Dane and Mitch challenge the pervasive myth that extraordinary achievements can be reached without extraordinary effort. They explore the allure of shortcuts and the cultural obsession with instant results, urging listeners to embrace the discomfort of the process as the true path to personal growth. Through candid discussions and personal anecdotes, they highlight the transformative power of voluntary discomfort and the joy found in the journey itself. Whether it's learning a new skill or pursuing a lifelong dream, this episode invites you to flip the script on comfort and engage deeply with the process of becoming. Join the conversation and discover how to cultivate resilience, humility, and authentic mastery in your own life.Chapters:00:00 Introduction01:06 The Illusion of Mastery03:39 The Aspiration to Learn06:06 Pre-mortem: Why Resolutions Fail10:28 The Trap of Cultural Norms17:01 The Reality: It Takes More Time and Costs More20:38 Having Respect for Masters23:40 Singing at the Talent Show32:44 The Value of Humility in Learning35:41 Gaining More Than Skills40:05 On the HookMentions:Steven Pressfield - Mentioned in the context of his commentary on the difficulty of becoming a professional athlete compared to other professions. Ryan Holiday - Referenced for his book *The Obstacle Is the Way*, which discusses how obstacles can be beneficial. Courtney Dauwalter - Mentioned for her concept of "remodeling your pain cave," related to endurance running. Dude Perfect - Referenced as an example of extraordinary feats that can create unrealistic expectations. Zach King - Mentioned for his clever video edits that depict the impossible. Forrest Gump - Referenced in relation to table tennis, highlighting the unrealistic expectations some people have about mastering sports. Von Trapp Family - Mentioned in the context of families that can sing and perform together, from *The Sound of Music*. American Idol and The Voice - Mentioned in the context of people critiquing performers without understanding the effort involved. Anchor Actions:1. Embrace the Process: Commit to engaging fully with the journey of learning or improving a skill, rather than fixating solely on the end goal. This means accepting the discomfort of being a beginner and finding joy in the daily practice and effort. Reflect on how you can shift your mindset to appreciate the process as much as the outcome.2. Set Realistic Expectations: Recognize that achieving mastery or significant improvement will take more time and effort than you might initially expect. Use this understanding to set realistic goals and timelines for your personal growth endeavors. Consider what resources, such as time or mentorship, you'll need to allocate to support your journey.3. Cultivate Humility and Respect for Mastery: Develop a healthy respect for those who have achieved excellence in any field. Use this as motivation to approach your own goals with humility and a willingness to learn. Reflect on how you can apply this perspective to your current aspirations, acknowledging the effort required and respecting the journey of others.Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io...

Season 3, Episode 5 | "Are you ready to confront the comfort that's keeping you asleep?" In this episode of Strong & Awake, Dane and Mitch challenge listeners to step into the realm of voluntary discomfort to unlock a life of true freedom. "Freedom from" is a journey from the familiar to the unknown. Comfort, while enticing, often leaves us stagnant and unfulfilled. Through personal anecdotes and thought-provoking insights, they invite you to identify the habits and choices that hold you back, offering a pathway to break free from the cycle of short-term pleasure and long-term dissatisfaction. Whether it's a toxic relationship, a bad habit, or the allure of convenience, this episode is a call to action to embrace the hard choices that lead to an empowered, awake life. Join the conversation and discover how voluntary discomfort can be the key to accessing the treasure room of possibilities in your life.Chapters:00:00 Introduction01:21 The Hard Choice Key05:13 The Comfort Trap07:44 Balance and Bondage10:56 The Trove of Trials15:27 Getting Real about the ReelMentions:Søren Kierkegaard: Mentioned in the context of a quote about despair and happiness.Jerzy Gregorek: Quoted for saying, "Easy choices, hard life. Hard choices, easy life."Jesse Itzler: Referenced for his idea of having one Herculean Misogi a year and other periodic healthy habits.Men and Women of Discomfort (MWOD): A community focused on voluntary discomfort to achieve personal growth.Anchor Actions:1. Identify and Embrace Your Hard Choice: Reflect on the area of your life where you feel stuck or unsatisfied. Identify the hard choice you need to make to move forward—whether it's having a difficult conversation, clearing out temptations from your environment, or setting boundaries with technology. Take a tangible step today to confront this discomfort head-on.2. Create a Vision for Change: Clearly define what you are moving towards, not just what you want to leave behind. Spend time visualizing your desired future state, whether it's a healthier lifestyle, more meaningful relationships, or greater personal fulfillment. Write down specific goals that align with this vision and review them regularly to maintain focus.3. Commit to Voluntary Discomfort: Integrate small acts of voluntary discomfort into your daily routine to build resilience and confidence. This could be as simple as taking a cold shower, skipping a habitual indulgence, or engaging in a challenging physical activity. Use these moments to remind yourself of your capacity to endure and thrive beyond temporary discomfort.Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io 🦬Connect With Us:Facebook | Instagram | YouTube | TikTok | X (Twitter)Disclaimer:The information...

Season 3, Episode 4 | "Does it have to be this way?" In this episode of Strong & Awake, Dane and Mitch explore the profound impact of voluntary discomfort on mental health. They challenge the cultural norm of seeking comfort and immediate gratification, arguing that it leads to anxiety, depression, and a sense of unrest. By embracing discomfort intentionally, individuals can achieve a deeper, more satisfying comfort that fosters mental well-being. Through personal anecdotes and community experiences, they highlight the transformative power of daily practices like cold showers and mindful reactions, which cultivate resilience and peace. This episode invites listeners to reconsider their relationship with discomfort and to explore how small, intentional acts can lead to significant mental health improvements. Join the conversation and discover the unlikely path to the life you truly want.Chapters:00:00 Introduction01:12 The Culture of Mental Health07:02 Voluntary Discomfort and Mental Health12:27 The Practice Over the End19:48 Practical Steps for Mental Health25:00 Embracing Discomfort in Everyday Life28:04 Invitation to the MWOD CommunityMentions:"The Year of Magical Thinking": A memoir by Joan Didion that explores her experiences with grief and mental health after her husband's death.75 Hard: A mental toughness program that involves strict daily tasks over 75 days, mentioned in the context of short-term challenges and their sustainability.Winter Arc: An online phenomenon involving a 90-day challenge to drink less, work out more, and be mindful about eating, mentioned in the context of short-term health initiatives.Anchor Actions:1. Embrace Delayed Gratification: This act of delayed gratification can shift your mindset from seeking immediate comfort to finding deeper satisfaction. Commit to a habit that cultivates and necessitates delayed gratification for seven days and observe how it impacts your mental health and resilience.2. Identify and Challenge Automatic Reactions: Throughout your day, consciously notice moments when you typically react with frustration or anger. Instead of responding automatically, choose to pause and sit with the discomfort. This practice not only alters your interactions with others but also transforms your internal dialogue, fostering a sense of calm and control.3. Integrate Daily Discomfort: Incorporate small, voluntary discomforts into your daily routine, like opting for the less convenient option or placing yourself in a physically uncomfortable situation (e.g., sitting in the least desirable seat during a group outing). These intentional choices build mental fortitude and prepare you to handle life's involuntary discomforts more effectively.Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io 🦬Connect With Us:Facebook | Instagram | YouTube | TikTok |

Season 3, Episode 3 | "Are you treating your relationships like a project?" In this episode of Strong & Awake, Dane and Mitch challenge the common misconception of equating productivity with relationship success. They explore the discomfort of choosing presence over efficiency, sharing personal stories that highlight the tension between productivity and genuine connection. The discussion emphasizes the importance of developing a daily practice that prioritizes relationships, even when it feels inefficient. Through voluntary discomfort, they argue, we can cultivate a life that is truly strong and awake. Join them as they offer insights and practical steps to shift from transactional interactions to meaningful connections, inviting listeners to embrace the unlikely path to the life they truly desire.Chapters:00:00 Introduction01:27 Productivity and Relationships04:49 Being Present11:55 Common Failures and Misconceptions20:47 Practice vs. Projects32:59 Final Thoughts and Community InvitationMentions:Ryan Holiday: Referenced for his advice on imagining each goodnight with your children as if it might be the last, to avoid taking moments for granted.Jerzy Gregorek: Quoted for his saying, "Hard choices, easy life. Easy choices, hard life."Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io 🦬Connect With Us:Facebook | Instagram | YouTube | TikTok | X (Twitter)Disclaimer:The information shared on this podcast and any related materials from Men & Women Of Discomfort (MWOD) or Flying S Incorporated are for general informational purposes only. You should not use this information as a basis for making decisions without consulting your own medical and legal professionals. We aim to provide accurate and up-to-date information, but we make no guarantees about the completeness, accuracy, reliability, suitability, or comprehensiveness of the content.At Men & Women Of Discomfort, we promote agency and encourage you to carefully consider the input we offer. If you find it helpful, we invite you to take advantage of it, but do so with the understanding that you bear the responsibility of due diligence. By using our content, you acknowledge that you are taking opportunities at your own risk. Thank you for understanding.*Transcript Note: The transcript of our podcast is AI-generated and may contain errors. We aim for accuracy but appreciate your understanding and feedback on any discrepancies.Copyright 2025 Men & Women Of Discomfort (MWOD.io) Mentioned in this episode:Sponsor: Never SettleNever Settle is the creative tech and marketing agency that has been MWOD's creative partner— helping with branding, designing our website, and various growth

Season 3, Episode 2 | Comfort is Costly. In this episode of Strong & Awake, Dane and Mitch tackle the often daunting topic of personal finance, exploring how voluntary discomfort can lead to financial freedom. They share personal stories of overcoming debt and the transformative power of making uncomfortable financial decisions. From budgeting to tackling debt, the conversation offers a fresh perspective on how embracing discomfort can lead to lasting change. Listeners are encouraged to identify their own financial discomforts and take actionable steps towards a healthier financial future. Whether it's cutting unnecessary expenses, starting a budget, or simply acknowledging financial realities, this episode is an invitation to take control and find freedom in the unlikely path of voluntary discomfort. Chapters:00:00 Introduction00:53 The Comfort Trap06:13 Breaking Financial Myths09:46 Personal Finance Journeys17:24 Common Financial Pitfalls21:19 The Power of One Thing28:56 Ratcheting Up for Growth33:33 Community and Financial FreedomMentions:Dave Ramsey - Mentioned as a prominent figure in personal finance, known for helping people get out of debt through principles and strategies.James Clear - Referenced for his concept of making votes for your future self, likely from his book "Atomic Habits."Ryan Holiday - Mentioned for his idea that "the obstacle is the way," a concept from his book "The Obstacle Is the Way."Marcus Aurelius - Referenced indirectly through Ryan Holiday, known for his Stoic philosophy.Financial Peace University - A program by Dave Ramsey aimed at helping people manage their finances.Mike Michalowicz - Mentioned as someone who helps businesses with financial strategies.Sallie Mae - Mentioned in the context of student loans.Ramit Sethi - Mentioned as another financial advisor known for his work in personal finance.Anchor Actions:Start with One Uncomfortable Financial Action: Identify the financial action that makes you most uncomfortable—whether it's creating a basic budget, freezing unnecessary spending, or paying off a specific debt. Commit to doing this one action consistently, rather than overwhelming yourself with multiple changes. This will help you build momentum and confidence in managing your finances.Embrace Community Support and Challenge: Seek out a supportive community, such as a local Financial Peace University group or the MWOD community, to share your financial journey. Engaging with others who are also working towards financial freedom can provide encouragement, accountability, and practical insights that make the process less isolating and more manageable.Limit Cognitive Load with Simple Practices: Reduce decision fatigue by implementing straightforward financial practices. For example, use cash envelopes for budgeting or set a moratorium on non-essential purchases to simplify your financial decisions. This approach minimizes stress and helps you focus on making progress with the resources you have.Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io 🦬Connect With Us:Facebook |

Season 3, Episode 1 | "Why do we crave change yet struggle to achieve it?" In this episode of Strong & Awake, Dane and Mitch tackle the perennial challenge of New Year's resolutions and why they often fail. They explore the common pitfalls of quick fixes and the allure of comfort, offering a compelling argument for embracing voluntary discomfort as a path to genuine transformation. Through personal anecdotes and community stories, they reveal how sustainable change requires a shift in mindset and a commitment to enduring discomfort. This episode serves as a call to action to reframe resolutions as the starting point for deeper, lasting change, urging listeners to embrace discomfort as a catalyst for personal growth. Join the conversation and discover how to navigate the resistance that stands between you and the life you truly desire.Chapters:00:00 Introduction 03:16 The Folly of Resolutions 05:50 The Desire for Transformation 11:27 Realizing Potential 18:08 Why Resolutions Fail 28:10 The Power of Community 37:16 Embracing DiscomfortMentions:Seth Godin - Mentioned by Dane in the context of a blog post about Zambonis.C.S. Lewis - Quoted by Dane, specifically his thoughts on human desires and joy.Soren Kierkegaard - Quoted by Dane, particularly his views on despair and happiness.Jerzy Gregorek - Referenced by Dane, known for the quote "Hard choices, easy life. Easy choices, hard life."75Hard - A fitness program mentioned by Dane.Ozempic - A diabetes drug mentioned by Dane, often used for weight loss.Steve Pressfield - Referenced by Dane, known for his thoughts on resistance and dreams.Anchor Actions:Commit to Consistency Over Quick Fixes: Instead of relying on temporary solutions like fad diets or short-term exercise programs, focus on building sustainable habits. Start small by integrating daily practices that contribute to long-term goals, such as a 15-minute walk every day or replacing one unhealthy meal with a nutritious option. This approach aligns with the MWOD philosophy of voluntary discomfort, encouraging you to embrace the challenge of consistent effort over time.Anticipate and Plan for Resistance: Recognize that resistance is a natural part of any significant change. Prepare for moments of doubt or temptation by having strategies in place, such as accountability partners or specific actions to take when motivation wanes. This proactive stance transforms resistance into an opportunity for growth, reinforcing your commitment to personal transformation.Engage with Community Support: Leverage the power of community to stay motivated and accountable. Join a group or find a partner who shares similar goals, and regularly check in to share progress and challenges. The collective encouragement and shared experiences can provide the support needed to push through difficult times, making the journey less isolating and more rewarding.Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io 🦬Connect With Us:Facebook | Instagram |

Season 3 Teaser: A Season of ChangeYour future self sent a message—it's time for change! Whether it’s a New Year’s resolution or just a long-overdue shift, this season of Strong & Awake is dedicated to helping you make it happen. We’re tackling the top resolutions and life changes that people chase year after year, but with a twist—no more strategies that don’t work. This season is all about getting to the root of the problem/opportunity, giving you real hope and practical steps to become who you want to be.Subscribe now so you don’t miss an episode, and if you’re ready for more right now, check out Seasons 1 and 2 at MWOD.io/podcastJoin Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io 🦬Connect With Us:Facebook | Instagram | YouTube | TikTok | X (Twitter)Disclaimer:The information shared on this podcast and any related materials from Men & Women Of Discomfort (MWOD) or Flying S Incorporated are for general informational purposes only. You should not use this information as a basis for making decisions without consulting your own medical and legal professionals. We aim to provide accurate and up-to-date information, but we make no guarantees about the completeness, accuracy, reliability, suitability, or comprehensiveness of the content.At Men & Women Of Discomfort, we promote agency and encourage you to carefully consider the input we offer. If you find it helpful, we invite you to take advantage of it, but do so with the understanding that you bear the responsibility of due diligence. By using our content, you acknowledge that you are taking opportunities at your own risk. Thank you for understanding.*Transcript Note: The transcript of our podcast is AI-generated and may contain errors. We aim for accuracy but appreciate your understanding and feedback on any discrepancies.Copyright 2025 Men & Women Of Discomfort (MWOD.io)

Season 2, Episode 9 | "Without some version of these six words, the change you seek is going to be determined by something other than you." In this episode of Strong & Awake, Dane and Mitch challenge listeners to confront the drift of life and the allure of comfort that keeps us asleep. They introduce a powerful six-word mantra: "Up until now, from now on," as a tool for personal transformation. This episode invites you to draw a line in the sand (or mud), acknowledge past patterns, and consciously choose a new path forward. Through personal anecdotes and practical insights, they explore the discomfort of change and the agency required to live a life of intention. Whether you're stuck in a rut or ready to break free, this conversation is a call to action to embrace voluntary discomfort and redefine your reality. Join the journey from passive existence to active participation in the life you truly desire.Chapters:00:00 Introduction01:42 The Drift and Comfort02:39 Six Words That Change Everything11:30 Understanding the Drift15:40 Anchors and Correcting Course20:44 Taking Responsibility for Solutions24:05 The Fulcrum Moment: Honest to Hopeful29:33 The Nature of Change: Embracing Discomfort34:49 Invitation to Participate: Join the Journey40:56 Final Thoughts and Next StepsMentions:M. Scott Peck: Mentioned in the context of people either taking too much responsibility or not enough responsibility. Known for his books "The Road Less Traveled" and "People of the Lie."Dan Tocchini: Credited with introducing the six-word phrase "up until now, from now on."Nassim Taleb: Referenced for his concept of "antifragility," which suggests that systems can become stronger through stress and adversity. Known for his book "Antifragile: Things That Gain from Disorder."Psalm 40: Mentioned metaphorically in reference to being stuck in the mire and needing to draw a line in the mud.Jerzy Gregorek: Referenced for his saying, "Easy choices, hard life. Hard choices, easy life." Anchor Actions:1. Reflect on Your Default State: Identify whether you tend to take too much responsibility or not enough in your life situations. Use this awareness to expand your perspective. If you usually blame yourself for everything, consider what solutions you could uniquely offer. If you often see yourself as a victim, explore ways you might take responsibility for your actions and outcomes.2. Practice the Six-Word Pivot: Implement the "Up until now, from now on" exercise in your daily life. When you encounter a situation where you feel stuck or dissatisfied, acknowledge it honestly by saying, "Up until now," and then create a hopeful vision for change with "From now on." This practice helps shift your mindset from being reactive to proactive.3. Engage in Community and Hold Account: If you're feeling ready to take a step towards change but need support, consider joining a community that aligns with your goals. Engage in conversations that challenge you and hold you accountable. This could be through MWOD or another group that encourages growth through discomfort and intentional living.Listen to the end of the episode for a bonus!Contact us: hello@mwod.ioJoin Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io 🦬Connect With Us:

Season 2, Episode 8 | "Action means action. Now means now, stand now." In this episode of Strong & Awake, Dane and Mitch challenge the illusion of progress that comes from merely thinking about change rather than taking action. They explore the concept of "Stand Now," urging listeners to break free from the comfort traps that keep them stagnant. They emphasize the importance of immediate action and the power of community in achieving personal growth. Whether it's the allure of buying an online course or the satisfaction of planning without executing, they dismantle the myths that hold us back. This episode is a call to arms for those ready to stop dreaming and start doing, highlighting the transformative journey of becoming strong and awake for love's sake. Join the conversation and discover how to take the first step toward the life you truly desire.Chapters:00:00 Introduction: The Trap of Inaction01:18 The Illusion of Accomplishment05:58 We Have What We Do10:05 A Practice Biased Towards Action15:39 Practical Examples of Standing Now24:25 The Drift of Decision Making 35:40 The Power of Community and GuidanceMentions:Eric Tonjes: Mentioned as a theologian and former professional football player who shared a story about a yard sale.Seth Godin: Referenced for popularizing the phrase "let's get real or let's not play."Brene Brown: Mentioned in the context of her discussions about being "in the arena," a concept originally from Teddy Roosevelt in his famous "in the arena" speech.Dan Tocchini: Mentioned as Dane's mentor who taught him "six little words that will change your life forever.""Family Feud": Mentioned as a game show where the strategy to win involves hitting the button before knowing the answer.Anchor Actions:Stand Now: The core message of this episode is about taking immediate action. Identify one area in your life where you've been procrastinating or overthinking. Today, take a single, tangible step towards it. Whether it's starting a new workout, initiating a difficult conversation, or beginning a project you've been putting off, the key is to act now, not later. Remember, action means action, and now means now.Daily Practice: Establish a daily routine that incorporates an element of voluntary discomfort. This could be a cold shower, a challenging workout, or a period of focused work without distractions. The idea is to build resilience and discipline by consistently doing something that pushes you out of your comfort zone. This practice will help you become the kind of person who doesn't miss a day and continuously grows stronger and more awake.Community Engagement: Consider joining a community or group that support and challenges you, providing a context for you to stand and hold account. Engaging with others who are on a similar journey can reduce cognitive load and provide the guidance needed to stay on track. If you're interested, explore communities like MWOD, where you can find structured support and a shared commitment to personal growth through discomfort.Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io 🦬Connect With Us:Facebook | Instagram...

Season 2, Episode 7 | "If I wasn't concerned with the outcome, but was more concerned with being in the experience, what would that open up for me?" In this episode of Strong & Awake, Dane and Mitch explore the concept of playing infinite games versus finite games in life. They challenge the traditional mindset of winning and losing, urging listeners to focus on growth rather than just the end result. Through engaging anecdotes and thought-provoking discussions, they highlight how adopting an infinite game perspective can transform relationships, careers, and personal well-being. By embracing voluntary discomfort and consistent practices, they argue, we can cultivate resilience and a richer, more fulfilling life. This episode invites you to rethink your goals and the games you play, offering a fresh lens to view life's challenges and opportunities.Chapters:00:00 Introduction01:23 Playing Infinite Games04:54 Finite vs. Infinite Goals10:06 Embracing Presence15:38 Practical Steps to Play Infinite19:08 Building a Practice27:35 The Bigger GameMentions:James Carse: Mentioned as the author of "Finite and Infinite Games," which introduces the concept of finite games (with winners and losers) and infinite games (which continue indefinitely).Simon Sinek: Referenced for his book "The Infinite Game," which builds on Carse's ideas and applies them to business and personal development.James Clear: Cited for his work on habits, particularly the idea that identity-based habits (e.g., becoming a runner) are more sustainable than goal-based habits.Peter Attia: Referenced for his book "Outlive," which discusses living a better life in terms of both quality and quantity.Tim Gallwey: Mentioned for his book "The Inner Game of Tennis," which discusses the concept of "relaxed focus" and being present in the moment.Anchor Actions:Shift Your Perspective on Goals: Reflect on the areas of your life where you might be playing a finite game with a win-lose mindset. Consider how you can reframe these areas into infinite games focused on ongoing growth and connection. For example, in relationships, aim to nurture and perpetuate the bond rather than "winning" arguments or gaining leverage.Practice Daily Rituals for Identity Building: Establish daily habits that align with the person you want to become, not just tasks to complete. Focus on who you are becoming through your daily practice, reinforcing your identity through action and playing the infinite game of personal growth.Embrace Presence in Every Moment: Cultivate the habit of being fully present in your daily interactions and tasks. Whether in a conversation, a work task, or a personal challenge, practice relaxed focus and engage deeply with the moment. This presence not only enhances your immediate experience but also contributes to a richer, more fulfilling life as you play the infinite game of becoming.Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io 🦬Connect With Us:Facebook | Instagram |

Season 2, Episode 6 | “Course correction isn’t bad news—it’s the work. It’s the ongoing practice of staying awake and adjusting along the way.”In this episode of Strong & Awake, Dane and Mitch explore the concept of course-correction and the inner dialogue that often holds us back. They discuss the importance of waking up, practicing with intention, and knowing your purpose. Through personal anecdotes and practical advice, they emphasize the necessity of voluntary discomfort in achieving a fulfilling life. The conversation examines the critical role of self-awareness, the pitfalls of perfectionism, and the value of community in personal growth. Tune in to learn how to quiet your inner critic, embrace the process, and correct course towards becoming strong and awake for love's sake.Chapters:00:00 Introduction01:25 Managing Inner Voices04:32 The Importance of Course Correction06:37 Embodied Practice and Reps12:05 Navigating Life’s Complexities24:49 Course Correction in Work and Life31:29 The Power of CommunityMentions:Tim Gallwey: Author of "The Inner Game of Tennis," which discusses the concept of two selves, self number one (the ego self) and self number two (the doing self).Scott Peck: Mentioned for his quote "Life is hard," highlighting the challenges of navigating life.Roger Federer: Used as an example of a professional athlete who maintains composure and presence in the game.Vincent van Gogh: Referenced for his dedication to his work despite only selling one painting in his lifetime.Plato's Cave: Mentioned in the context of people being unaware of the broader reality outside their immediate experience.Anchor Actions:Morning Rituals for Awakening: Start your day with intentional activities that ground you and set a positive tone. Consider incorporating practices like cold showers, breath work, journaling, or prayer. Avoid checking messages or social media first thing in the morning to maintain control over your day.Midday Recalibration: Identify a time in your day, such as mid-afternoon, when you typically feel tired or distracted. Use this time to engage in activities that wake you up and refocus your energy. This could be a quick walk, stretching, or even a brief meditation session.End-of-Day Reflection: Establish a nightly routine that helps you wind down and reflect on your day. This could include activities like stretching, journaling about your day’s accomplishments and learnings, or practicing gratitude. Aim to create a consistent sleep routine that ensures you get enough rest for the next day.Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io 🦬Connect With Us:Facebook | Instagram | YouTube | TikTok | X...

Season 2, Episode 5 | "Are You Prioritizing Comfort Over Profit in Your Life?"In this episode of Strong & Awake, Dane and Mitch tackle the insidious nature of comfort and its impact on our lives. They explore how our craving for convenience often leads to unprofitable decisions and how prioritizing voluntary discomfort can yield significant returns. Using the metaphor of profit in business, they discuss the importance of making hard choices and embracing discomfort to achieve a more fulfilling life. From personal anecdotes about financial decisions to practical advice on fitness and nutrition, this episode is a call to action to prioritize profit in every aspect of life. Join the conversation and learn how to make the uncomfortable choices that lead to true growth and satisfaction.Chapters:00:00 Introduction01:31 Prioritizing Profit in Life05:17 Avoiding Common Pitfalls09:15 The Role of Discipline and Consistency18:24 Embracing Discomfort for Growth25:06 Auditing Our LifeMentions:Dave Ramsey: Mentioned in the context of financial advice, particularly about paying off debt and making profitable financial decisions.Annie Duke: Referenced for her ideas on decision-making, specifically viewing decisions as bets to increase the likelihood of success.Mark Page: Dane's pastor, acknowledged for his influence and modeling of the principles discussed in the podcast.CrossFit: Mentioned in the context of physical discomfort and the benefits of shared suffering in building strong relationships.Anchor Actions:Audit Your Life for Profit: Start by auditing different categories of your life such as friends, family, finances, and habits. Identify which relationships and activities leave you feeling enriched and which ones drain you. Aim to increase the former and reduce the latter. This is about making conscious choices that prioritize a profitable return on your life.Set a Minimal Viable Practice: Whether it's in the gym or the kitchen, begin with a minimal viable practice that you can sustain over the long haul. Focus on consistency rather than intensity. For example, commit to a daily 10-minute workout or a simple, healthy meal plan. The key is to build a foundation that you can grow from, ensuring you don't miss a day.Simplify and Reduce Optionality: Just like businesses simplify their menu to reduce complexity and improve focus, do the same in your life. Eliminate unnecessary choices and distractions. This could mean cutting down on subscriptions, decluttering your living space, or streamlining your daily routines. The goal is to create more mental and physical space for what truly matters, making it easier to prioritize profit in every decision.Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io 🦬Connect With Us:Facebook | Instagram | YouTube | TikTok |

Season 2, Episode 4 | "We're so used to being consumers, we're consumed, and we think it's normal. Freedom is to release."In this episode of Strong & Awake, Dane and Mitch explore the concept of "Traveling Light". They discuss how overpacking—whether it's physical items for a trip or emotional and mental burdens—can weigh us down and distract us from what truly matters. They emphasize the importance of making conscious choices to carry only what you need and the profound freedom that comes from letting go of excess of all kinds. By front-loading the effort to decide what is essential, you can engage more fully with your reality and experience a more fulfilling life. Join the conversation to learn practical steps for decluttering your life and mind, and discover the power of voluntary discomfort in achieving true freedom.Chapters:00:00 Introduction04:02 Anchors to Reality09:43 Have What You Need12:36 The Burden of Mental and Emotional Weight21:32 Backwards Strategies24:56 Limiting Optionality for Greater Freedom31:23 Action Steps for Traveling Light35:49 The Importance of CommunityMentions:Second Law of Thermodynamics: Mentioned in the context of entropy and energy dissipation.Stoicism: Referenced in relation to controlling one's response to events.Parkinson's Law: The adage that "work expands to fill the time available for its completion."Marie Kondo: Referenced for her method of decluttering Annie Leonard: Creator of the documentary "The Story of Stuff," which discusses consumerism and its environmental impact.Amazon: Mentioned in the context of consumer habits and the ease of acquiring goods.Greg McKeown: Author of "Essentialism," a book about focusing on what is truly essential.Ryan O'Neal (Sleeping at Last): Musician known for using creative constraints in his work.Anchor Actions:1. Simplify Your Environment: Start with one area of your life, such as your workspace or a junk drawer. Remove everything from that space, and only put back what you absolutely need. Donate, recycle, or throw away the rest. This physical act of decluttering can lead to mental clarity and a sense of freedom.2. Identify and Release Mental Burdens: Take a "mental inventory" while on a walk or during a quiet moment. Identify unresolved issues or relationships weighing you down. Commit to one action to address each burden, such as making a phone call, writing a letter, or having a necessary conversation.3. Adopt an Essentialist Approach to Daily Decisions: For the next week, consciously limit your choices. Use a smaller bag, reduce your wardrobe to a capsule collection, or set strict limits on daily tasks. Notice how fewer options can lead to greater focus and satisfaction.Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io 🦬Connect With Us:Facebook | Instagram | YouTube | TikTok |

Season 2, Episode 3 | "Fueling first is not just a nice-to-have thing, it's mission critical."In this episode of Strong & Awake, Dane and Mitch challenge the myth of invincibility and the dangers of running on empty. They explore the critical importance of "fueling first" in our daily lives. Just as we maintain and fuel our cars, we must consider how our lack of fuel is impacting our own energy and well-being. Through personal anecdotes and practical advice, they emphasize the necessity of proactive self-care and the pitfalls of waiting until the last minute to refuel. This episode is a call to action to adopt daily habits that make up a practice, ensuring we are operating at our best, reducing anxiety, and enhancing overall performance. Tune in to discover how small, consistent actions (often uncomfortable) can lead to significant, long-term benefits.Chapters:00:00 Introduction01:27 Fueling Your Car and The Cost of Running on Empty07:28 The Advantage of Fueling First09:10 Performance Benefits of Fueling First15:45 Scarcity vs. Abundance Mindset19:13 Shifting from Reactive to Proactive Living24:17 Practical Tips for Fueling First Daily27:14 Expanding Beyond Daily Routines31:26 Reflecting and Adjusting Your Fueling Habits33:08 Embracing Curiosity and Taking ActionMentions:James Clear: Author of "Atomic Habits," mentioned for his idea that every action is a vote for who you are becoming.Kobe Bryant: Late basketball player, mentioned for his shift in professional nutrition and overall approach to being a professional athlete.Anchor Actions:1. Fuel First Every Day:Commit to starting each day by fueling yourself both physically and mentally. This includes getting enough sleep (aim for 7+ hours), hydrating (96 ounces of water daily), and engaging in morning routines that wake you up and ground you, such as cold showers or breath work. Make this a non-negotiable part of your daily practice.2. Proactively Manage Your Energy:Identify key moments in your day when your energy typically dips and plan proactive measures to refuel. This could involve movement breaks, breath work, or adjusting the timing of your workouts. Ensure you sustain your energy throughout the day by integrating these practices consistently.3. Reflect and Plan Nightly:Establish a nightly routine where you reflect on your day, assess your performance, and plan for the next day. This could include journaling, setting goals, and coordinating with family or household members to ensure a smooth transition into the next day. This practice helps maintain a full tank and reduces anxiety.Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io 🦬Connect With Us:Facebook | Instagram | YouTube | TikTok | X...

Season 2, Episode 2 | "Are you playing the role, or is the role playing you?"In this episode of Strong & Awake, Dane and Mitch explore the four archetypical roles we all play in life: victim, hero, guide, and rescuer. They discuss how recognizing and choosing these roles can transform your life. From pickleball to the literature we consume, this episode challenges you to wake up to the roles you're playing and choose the path of voluntary discomfort to achieve true transformation. Join us as we explore the second anchor of the series, Choose Your Role.Chapters:00:00 Introduction01:22 Pickleball and the Roles We Play10:12 The Four Roles15:38 Symptoms of the Role We are Playing17:50 Moving Beyond Victimhood26:39 Invitation & Identification32:02 Transformation is HardMentions:Donald Miller: Mentioned in the context of his work with StoryBrand and his book "Hero on a Mission".Joseph Campbell: Referenced for his work "The Hero with a Thousand Faces" and the concept of the hero's journey.Matthew Dicks: Mentioned for his storytelling principles.Dan Allender: Psychologist known for his work with adults who were sexually molested as children. Mentioned for his unique therapeutic approach.Tim Krueger: Co-founder of MWOD and mentioned in a story about his parenting approach.Seth Godin: Referenced for his quote, "People like us do things like this."Luke Skywalker, Obi Wan Kenobi, Yoda: Characters from "Star Wars" used to illustrate the hero's journey and the roles of victim, guide, and hero.Anchor Actions:Identify Your Role: Take a moment to reflect on the role you're currently playing in different aspects of your life in any given moment. Are you acting as a victim, hero, guide, or rescuer? Acknowledge this without judgment and ask yourself if this is the role you want to play or if it's the role your future self would be proud of.Seek Voluntary Discomfort: Challenge yourself to step out of your comfort zone purposefully. Whether it's taking on a new sport like pickleball, tackling a difficult project at work, or having a tough conversation, choose the harder path that requires effort and growth. Remember, transformation happens through overcoming challenges, not by drifting in comfort.Ask for Constructive Guidance: If you find yourself stuck in a victim or rescuer role, reach out to someone who has navigated similar challenges. Instead of seeking someone to solve your problems, look for a guide who can offer insights and direction while allowing you to do the work. This approach fosters personal growth and self-reliance.Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io 🦬Connect With Us:Facebook | Instagram | YouTube | TikTok | X...

Season 2, Episode 1 | Introducing Season 2: AnchorsIn this episode of Strong & Awake, Dane and Mitch challenge the pervasive mindset of "have to" and invite listeners to trade that for "get to." They explore how reframing daily chores and responsibilities as opportunities can radically shift your perspective and enhance your life. From parenting and marriage to work and mundane tasks, this simple yet profound shift can turn burdens into opportunities. Through personal anecdotes and practical examples, they invite you to experiment with this mindset and discover its potential to ground you in the present and align you with your true self. Tune in to learn how to anchor yourself amidst life's storms and embrace the power of voluntary discomfort.Chapters:00:00 Introduction01:24 Season Overview12:07 Get To vs. Have To vs. Want To 16:55 Not Just a Mindset Shift… It’s Reality19:32 Relating with Difficult Experiences23:40 The Gift of “Get To”26:23 OpportunityMentions:Dan Tocchini: Mentioned as a mentor of Dane Sanders in transformational work and the first person Dane heard the concept of "get to" from.Seth Godin: Mentioned as another person who has referenced the concept of "get to".Tim Krueger (Co-founder of Men and Women of Discomfort): Mentioned as Dane’s co-founder who passed away from stomach cancer and used the "get to" mindset during his treatment.Proverb about Pushing Rocks: Used as a metaphor to illustrate the difference between seeing tasks as a burden ("have to") versus an opportunity ("get to").Anchor Actions:Reframe “Chores” as Opportunities: Experiment with viewing everything from the mundane tasks to important roles in your life—parenting, marriage, work, and domestic chores—as opportunities rather than burdens. Use 'Get To' Instead of 'Have To': Simply replace the phrase "I have to" with "I get to" in your daily language. For example, instead of saying, "I have to take out the trash," say, "I get to take out the trash, which keeps my home clean and pleasant." This subtle change can significantly alter your mindset and anchor you to the reality of your situation.Anchor in the Present Moment: When you feel overwhelmed or angry, use the concept of anchors to ground yourself. Acknowledge your current emotions and use them as a signal to slow down and regain perspective. This practice can help you navigate through challenging moments more effectively.Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io 🦬Connect With Us:Facebook | Instagram | YouTube | TikTok | X (Twitter)Disclaimer:The information shared on this podcast and any related materials from Men & Women Of Discomfort (MWOD) or Flying S Incorporated are for

Episode 19 | Are you stuck in a decision-making paralysis, afraid to make the wrong move?In this episode of Strong & Awake, Dane and Mitch tackle the universal struggle of making tough decisions. They break down a practical process to help you move from indecision to action, whether it's about your job, relationships, or any significant life choice. Discover how to identify your current status quo, evaluate past attempts, and assess new opportunities with clarity. By embracing voluntary discomfort and making informed bets, you can break free from the cycle of hesitation and step confidently into becoming the person you want to be. Join us and learn how to make decisions that propel you forward, even if it means taking the uncomfortable path.Chapters:00:00 Introduction01:23 The Weight of Decision Fatigue06:49 Establishing Your Current Reality09:22 Envisioning a New Reality13:54 What Have You Tried Before Now?16:34 Why didn’t it Work? How is this Different?21:50 Make a DecisionMentions:Annie Duke: Mentioned as a professional poker player who discusses decision-making as bets with incomplete data.Søren Kierkegaard: Referenced for his quote, "Man finds the level of despair he can tolerate and calls it happiness."Derek Sivers: Mentioned for popularizing the idea that decisions should be a "hell yeah or no."Billy Broas and Tiago Forte: Mentioned for their book "Simple Marketing for Smart People," which discusses the contrast between the current situation and desired outcomes.Anchor Actions:1. Clarify Your Status Quo: Take a piece of paper and write down your current situation in detail. Whether it's your job, relationship, or any other aspect of your life, list out what you have right now. This exercise will help you understand your starting point and what exactly you might want to change.2. Evaluate Past Efforts: Reflect on what you have tried before to address your dissatisfaction. Identify why those efforts didn't work. Was it a lack of commitment, wrong strategy, or external factors? Understanding this will help you avoid repeating the same mistakes and recognize patterns in your behavior.3. Justify the New Option: Clearly articulate what is different about the new option you are considering. Why do you believe this will succeed where previous attempts have failed? This step is crucial to ensure that you are not just moving the furniture around on the deck of the Titanic but making a meaningful change.4. Make a DecisionJoin Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io 🦬Connect With Us:Facebook | Instagram | YouTube | TikTok | X (Twitter)Disclaimer:The information shared on this podcast and any related materials from Men & Women Of Discomfort (MWOD)...

Episode 18 | Humans who don't have the ability to delay gratification are stunted in their growth for the rest of their life.In this episode of Strong & Awake, Dane and Mitch tackle the pervasive allure of "shiny and new" distractions that derail our focus and growth. They share personal stories and practical strategies to combat the constant pull of immediate gratification. By acknowledging the ever-present temptations, setting up our environments for success, and leveraging community support, we can make deliberate choices that align with our long-term goals. Chapters:00:00 Introduction03:33 The Trap of Shiny and New15:08 Signals and Surges18:50 Decisive Action Against Distractions26:54 Perspective: The Nature of Things28:53 People: The Power of Community31:01 Practice: Building Your Rule of Life34:19 Patience: Playing the Long Game38:51 True Ease and Deep ComfortMentions:Eugene Peterson: Christian writer known for "The Message," a contemporary translation of the Bible.Marcus Aurelius: Roman Emperor and Stoic philosopher, author of "Meditations."Russell Brand: Comedian and author of many books on recovery and addiction.Andy Crouch: Author who discusses putting things in their proper place.Seth Godin: Author and speaker, mentioned for his talk on human potential and the concept of "people like us do things like this."M. Scott Peck: Psychiatrist and author of "The Road Less Traveled" and "People of the Lie," known for his insights on delayed gratification.The Eisenhower Matrix: A time management tool that categorizes tasks into four quadrants based on urgency and importance.Anchor Actions:1. Anticipate and Acknowledge Temptations:Before starting your day, acknowledge that distractions and temptations will arise. Recognize the "shiny and new" items and interruptions that will try to pull you away from your goals. By anticipating these distractions, you prepare yourself mentally to resist them.2. Create a Delay Gratification Strategy:Implement strategies to delay gratification. For example, set specific times to check emails or open packages. Place notifications on silent or use apps that temporarily block distracting websites. This helps you stay focused on tasks that align with your long-term goals.3. Community:Surround yourself with a community that shares your values and goals. Engage with people who care and hold the tension of support and challenge. Whether it’s through a group like MWOD or a close-knit circle of friends, having a community helps reinforce your commitment to choosing the hard but rewarding path.Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io 🦬Connect With Us:Facebook | Instagram | YouTube | TikTok | X...

Episode 17 | The Leaky Bucket of AccountabilityIn this episode of Strong & Awake, Dane and Mitch challenge the conventional wisdom around accountability. They argue that relying on others to hold us accountable is a way to dodge responsibility and set ourselves up for failure. Instead, they advocate for a practice of self-accountability that starts with creating and holding space for self-reflection— which can be done in community. They outline a process of committing to new behaviors, releasing old habits, and embracing the discomfort that leads to real change. Through personal anecdotes and practical advice, they invite listeners to take ownership of their growth and transformation. Don't just listen—take action and start holding yourself accountable today.Chapters:00:00 Introduction01:23 The Accountability Partner Myth04:08 Why Isn't it Working?07:11 Creating and Holding Space13:29 Daily Practices for Grounding18:20 True Repentance and Commitment21:04 The CREDO Framework25:04 Accountability in Community32:37 Taking ActionMentions:Jerzy Gregorek: Quoted for the saying "Hard choices, easy life. Easy choices, hard life.""The Power of Habit" by Charles Duhigg: Referenced in the context of understanding habits."Atomic Habits" by James Clear: Referenced in the context of understanding habits.Accountability: Discussed extensively, particularly the idea that self-accountability is more effective than relying on others to hold you accountable.Creating and Holding Space: The practice of creating a mental and emotional space to reflect and account for one's actions.Repentance: Described as a model for course correction, involving stopping, turning around, and moving in a new direction.Fess Up Fridays: A practice within MWOD where members reflect on their commitments, hold account for where they missed the mark, what they learned, and what they will do differently.CREDO Framework: A model for personal change involving Commit, Release, Embrace, Define, and Own stages.Ownership and Agency: Emphasized as critical for personal development and accountability.ItsProbablyNotForYou.com - Check it out!Anchor Actions:Self-Accountability Check-In: Every week, take a moment to reflect on three key points: What goal did you set, and where did you fall short?What did you learn about yourself in the process?What specific action will you take to correct your course and move forward?Create and Hold Space for Reflection:Dedicate a daily practice to create and hold space for yourself. This could involve a cold shower to wake up, a few minutes of breath-holding to center yourself, and journaling to process your thoughts. This routine helps you slow down, reflect on your actions, and prepare for the day with clarity.Commit to a New Direction:When you identify a behavior or habit you want to change, make a clear commitment to a new course of action. Understand that you will face resistance and the urge to revert to old habits. Embrace the discomfort, release your preferences, and consistently practice the new behavior until it becomes a natural part of your routine.Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io 🦬Connect With Us: